There is a high likelihood that to some degree you are an empath. Because of this you attract women with antisocial disorders like bees to honey. They hunt for your type because

1. you are the most easily manipulated
2. you feed their need for attention
3. you feed their need for emotional support
4. you feed their need for money and material gains

You are also the best mate a woman could want. So you have to recognize this and then weed out the sociopaths, psychopaths , narcissists and the very sneaky "dark empaths" so that you can find the "not perfect but balanced enough" woman that is capable of compromise and a nurturing relationship. In this day and age I recommend living with a woman for a year at least before marrying her. Test drive the car. Your grand parents methods of dating are obsolete today. A woman will set you up and the law will help her and she know it is because the legal system is designed to be on her side because they want to get rid of the black man and bed the black woman. You see and black man can easily have 50 children in a life time. But a black woman will have maybe 2-5 at most. So if you want o eliminate a race using Soft Genocide tactics then number one is getting rid of the male. So the best way to do that is to turn the female against the male via unfair empowerment via Welfare and Family law.